Preparation: it is not just about money
As you begin the journey to adoption or foster care, consider preparing your hearts as you wait:
Pre-adoption
Ask your agency for resources available to prepare your family.
Group studies
Consider reading and/or leading a Created to Connect study along with reading The Connected Child book.
Books
- The Connected Child – Karyn Purvis
- Adopted for Life – Russell Moore
- Thriving as an Adoptive Family – David & Renee Sanford
- Parenting your Internationally Adopted Child – Patty Cogen
- Orphanology – Tony Merida & Rick Morton
- Parenting the Hurt Child – Keck & Kupecky
- Toddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft – Mary Hopkins-Best
- Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control – Heather T. Forbes
- Attaching in Adoption — Deborah Gray
DVD’s and videos
- Trust-Based Parenting DVD
- Empowered to Connect videos
- ‘If You Were Mine’ DVD series
Conferences and training opportunities
- Christian Alliance for Orphans Summit
- Together for Adoption
- Empowered to Connect conferences & many more!
Waiting
Consider starting groups – for couples / mom’s / dad’s – for prayer, fellowship, fund raising
Tax Credit Info
Research information on the Federal Adoption Tax Credit & State Tax Credits. Click here for a free, downloadable tax credit resource from Adoption Learning Partners that will help adoptive families determine their eligibility for the adoption tax credit. (Click Here to Register)
To learn about other courses available through Adoption Learning Partners, visit their website at www.adoptionlearningpartners.org.
Mentoring
Try to find older adoptive parents/older parents to mentor and encourage your family.
Orphan Sunday
Consider taking part in the National Orphan Sunday movement!
As you progress through your journey and bring your children home, consider post-adoption resource groups and how you can help with training , equipping, and supporting other adoptive families.
The Financial Barrier
- Be intentional about Fund Raising – Both Hands projects, Events, Sales, Community – schools and libraries can all be beneficial to raising funds for your adoption.
- Hesitant to fundraise? Listen in to an adoptive couple’s fundraising journey. Learn More >>
- Apply for adoption grants, loans, and scholarships. (See Resource Report)
Helpful web links
Please also consider the following:
- Children need time to heal and adjust after adoption – change is necessary on many levels
- Parents must be the primary agents of that change and therefore must be trained adequately both before and after the adoption is completed
- Leading / serving in an adoption ministry will be demanding on many levels. We strongly recommend that couples work together in the ministry for the wellbeing of the couple, family and ministry.
Additional Resources
- iCareAboutOrphans.org — Ministry of Focus on the Family offering Free Post Adoption Phone Line, FREE service for adoptive families! The phone number is 800-A-FAMILY (232-6459) and is staffed Mon – Fri from 8am – 10pm EST by counselors who have been trained by Dr. Karyn Purvis.
- Journey To Me — Free online journal where pictures and messages can be captured on CD to treasure as a keepsake.
- Resources4Adoption.com — Non-profit organization providing you with the latest in Adoption Grant Resources, Adoption Education and more.